Change

People…you thought you know them. The truth is you don't. That perception is wrong. People keep on changing. Sometimes the changes in them hurt you. From a somebody, suddenly you become a nobody to them. Though they might not say so... the way they treat tells you everything. Suddenly, agnosia is a reason and a mnemonic aid is required for them to remember you.

Before, they will tell you their biggest secret. Now, they don't even want to tell you the smallest or unimportant things that happen to them. Suddenly, you feel like you don't know them at all. It hurts you deeply when you are booted out of their schema. But you couldn't tell them that because they will tell you that they are still the same person you know before. Everything’s a distant memory now…like a long lost and forgotten book in a dusty library shelf.

Extracting truth from all of them requires a lot of creativity.

Before, they will turn to you for advices in every category. They will come to you whenever they have problems. But now, they’re seeking it from their new friends. It’s like having dyslexia or a cognitive disorder and they think you won’t be able to understand them at all. Like it’s written all over your forehead. It is not about jealousy. It is just about a friend who thought they lost their sacred friendship.

Is the world selfish or am I just a self-centered being trying to find answers to things I couldn’t explain? A simple way of evaluation for things I can’t put a word on? Change is very hard to accept especially when it happens to people who are close to us. Gone are the long hours of idleness together, the seemingly endless laughter on very simple and crazy things, and the countless things that can be shared together…the shared experience. The semantics is lost.

No matter what kind of reinforcement, positive or negative and all the heuristics in life to solve this seemingly unavoidable situation, when people change… forget the most important things in their lives…its time to look for something new under the sun.

The concept of it all is simple. People change…and that’s a common knowledge.