of Superheroes and sidekicks...

This is just a repost of my earlier work...but I want you to read this....

Life teaches us a lot doesn't it. I saw it last night out -- with Batman and Robin from eVer.

Batman is a smart man and I have much respect for him and his kin -- the Batman's in my life... all of them. Robin is unique in that there are many superhero's but very few sidekicks.

There's no SuperBoy to the Superman. There's no Crab to the Spiderman. There's no Flush to go with Flash... I could go on and on... but Superhero's are a plenty...Sidekicks, now they're impossible to find. Especially a good sidekick... I'm not entirely sure why that is, but how do you find someone to trust your deepest darkest secrets to?

No wonder its impossible for most people to ever get married to someone that knows them completely...

If you can't find a sidekick, how do you find a spouse?

I think people go through their lives like Superman or Spiderman, hiding their true identity under layers and layers of society driven, suspicion diverting, inconspicuous camouflage.

What a sad thought considering that everybody started out as Superman and then became Clark Kent as the world took its swipes at them. Rarely, and possibly only in times of deep trouble do they manage to pull off the layers of crap and display the bright red suit they wear, Most times they just forget that they even wear it anymore!

I'm not saying that Batman was gay. I am saying that a relationship is based on more than lust and trust. Lust and trust are my two favorite 'non existent' pillars for relationships.

Everybody thinks that love is important... love is what it is... not one person can define love as anything concrete.

Trust is equally fictional -- here one day, gone the next. If an event occurred today that caused someone to lose their trust in me, then starting tomorrow am I trustworthy again? Everybody that meets me tomorrow onwards might think so, if they never hear of what happened yesterday. Again there is nothing empirical about trust, its just perception, and one that has no metrics applicable at all.

Lust, is well, I won't even elaborate on why that's a bad reason to build a relationship on.

Finally comes the last pillar: Passion.

Passion is important. Not for any other reason but for the fact that if you don't even begin passionately in love and madly trusting of the partner then what will you end up with?

Sure everybody says that passion fades, but these people are usually those that have never known true passion.

Love completes me they say. These people have no idea what it is like to be part of something bigger than themselves. Love doesn't complete the individual, love completes the couple. To be part of this synergy of two individuals ~ passion is absolutely necessary!

Passion is what passion is. A life without it is greatly undeserving of being referred to as such.

How I got from Batman to Passion, I'm not sure but it was on my mind these last few days as I've looked at my life and tried to eliminate everything from my it that doesn't inspire passion in me.

As we travel through life there's so many opportunities to learn so many things from the people surrounding us on a daily basis. Its strange how little we actually do learn. Robin could easily become Batman someday ~ as long as Batman keeps teaching him.

Finally I come down to the half hour test. If I spend a half hour with someone and come away more upbeat, more energetic, and generally happier, then they are good folk. They inspire me, motivate me, and make me want to do something.

If I spend the half hour with someone and they proceed to just suck the life out of my body, leave me drained and unmotivated then they aren't the sort of people I want to spend my time with.

Every now and then you have to look around and check... only because its so strange the amount of influence the people around you can have on you... positive or negative!

That's my Zen for now on the last 3 nights. The stories will follow after!